In the story, "Girl," is the mother being loving toward her daughter, by giving all the instruction that will help in the future?

It seems
to me that the mother in "" is practicing tough love. It's true that most mothers who
regularly call their daughters "sluts" aren't described as "loving," but I
would argue that the mother's intentions towards her daughter are good. She understands that as
both a female and a West Indian, in a world filled with sexism and racism, the girl will be
working against a lot of obstacles.  

Most of the mother's instructions
revolve around the way to do things so that the girl appears to be a perfect, proper young woman
and, eventually, wife. The sheer amount of instructions and responsibilities is
difficult...